For the longest time, I was convinced that I was okay.
Obviously, I would have rough days, or trudge through some seasonal or situational depression. No one can be “good” all of the time.
But most of the time, I was good. When I graduated high school, I left a lot of pain in my past. I was able to walk away from the boy who I had been obsessed with for three years. I was able to shake the insecurities I had with my body. I was able to discover who I was as an individual, separate from my family.
College was amazing. I was more than okay. I was great.
I graduated from college in May of 2019, and I was thrown into the cold word of adulthood. I struggled with loneliness, vocation, and identity. But even so, I was still okay. I didn’t spend every night in tears. I was still overly energetic and positive.
In the small time I spent in sales, I often had people tell me on the phone that they were happy with their current tech provider and were not looking to change. We were taught to ask them this simple question:
“Do you have to be sick to get better?”
This stunned people into silence, and often they would reconsider.
Though I am no longer in sales, this question has stuck with me for the last seven months.
Like I said, I was okay. I wasn’t incredibly depressed or lacking motivation. I could still smile and laugh and enjoy the little things.
I wasn’t sick.
But maybe I could still get better.
I’ve been going to counseling again since September. When I first started going, my counselor and I worked through the tensions I had with work (you can read more about that here). After I quit, she had asked me if I still wanted to continue counseling, since the main issue had been resolved. Even though I wasn’t sure what we would talk about, I had said yes.
Becuase you don’t have to be sick to get better.
In the past two months, I have been learning so much about myself through counseling. I’m gaining confidence. I’m getting better at setting boundaries. I’m understanding my role in my relationships.
I think a lot of people hesitate to go to therapy or counseling because they don’t have a reason. They’re fine. They’ve made it this far.
While this is perfectly fine, I also want to remind you that wanting to get better and grow is a valid reason to go to counseling. You don’t have to be incredibly traumatized or broken to benefit from therapy. You can be doing fine and still learn new things, still grow.
You are never too “okay” for therapy. Therapy meets you where you are and helps you get to where you want to be, and that is a wonderful thing.
It’s taken me a while to figure out this whole adulting thing. I still have a long way to go.
But therapy is the most adult thing I know how to do. Getting help is a very important part of adulting.
You don’t have to be sick to get better.
Do you have any experience with counseling?
Might you benefit from giving it a go?